First I would like to say Congratulations to anyone who has graduated from any educational program. I was reading this article call Things i wish I knew before Graduating;BY: T.J. HOLMES, well even though some have graduated maybe this article might assist you as you further your learning or help someone else ; I think it is pretty good advice:

1. Get a dream consultant.

You’re told from childhood to graduation day to follow your dreams. While the commencement speakers who dole out this advice are often wildly successful, chances are you won’t be. And that’s OK. How many of us are actually living out our dreams?

Dreams sound great before the first student-loan payment is due. Someone should sit you down to assess whether your dream is a worthwhile and reasonable pursuit, and let you know that you’re not a failure if you don’t achieve whatever dream you had. There’s nothing wrong with aiming high, but your idea of what it means to be happy and successful changes with experience in the real world.

2. Be afraid. Be very afraid.

You’re told to be fearless in your pursuits. But it’s OK to be scared. Fear gives perspective, though you shouldn’t let it stand in your way. Be the person who recognizes and feels the fear and then does that scary thing anyway. That’s courage.

A fearless person is actually pretty scary—someone who doesn’t understand what’s at stake and pursues it with a reckless disregard for the consequences. You don’t want to follow him or her.

3. Resist calls to have a precise answer to this question: “Where do you see yourself in five years?”

There are countless articles online dedicated to helping you answer this question during a job interview. Do what you have to do to get through the interview, but be careful in trying to map out your life so precisely. You can get discouraged when things throw you off course, and become blind to other golden opportunities that don’t seem to fit into your concrete plan.

4. Find something more interesting than sex.

This goes beyond just having a hobby. You should have an intellectual pursuit, something that you crave because of how it stimulates your mind. Poetry? Economics? Astronomy? Even auto mechanics or a particular culture. Whatever. (Admittedly, this one took me a while.)

5. If your gut tells you to do something, get a second opinion.

Following your gut or instinct is a common refrain in commencement speeches that should be taken with a grain of salt. Don’t wait to be overcome by some feeling, and don’t misinterpret it if it comes. A feeling is often emotion minus the intellect. I assure you, I’ve had a gut feeling about every Powerball ticket I ever bought.

6. Make sure your circle of friends is doing better than you are.

Being around people who are in the same struggle as you gets you nowhere. Don’t get jealous, feel inadequate or be intimidated because of people’s happiness, success or stuff. You should get around them as much as you can. It will rub off on you—plus, you’ll be around people in a position to help.


7. Call somebody.

In the past 24 hours, I’ve chatted with roughly 30 friends, family members and work colleagues. But I’ve only made one phone call. Texts, email, Twitter, Facebook, etc., have replaced human interaction. Pick up a phone and let somebody hear your voice.

8. Move changing the world to the bottom of the to-do list.

There’s nothing wrong with aiming high, but most of us won’t change the world—though a good commencement speaker will make you think you can. A speaker can be just as impactful by convincing you to change your small community.

9. Celebrate something every day.

When I was in my early 20s, I landed a job interview but was mindful not to get too excited. My mother, however, told me to get excited. “Celebrate the fact that you even got this far,” she told me. “It’s farther than a lot of people made it. They didn’t even get a call for the interview!” Big or small, successes are worth acknowledging and celebrating. And don’t ever compare yours with someone else’s.

10. Let people go.

Sometimes the only way your life is going to change is if you get certain people out of it. Don’t be afraid to cut them loose.

11. Sleep.

I’m learning this the hard way. For years I’ve prided myself on just how little sleep I need in order to function. Friends and colleagues have been amazed.

My doctor isn’t impressed. This week I was prescribed medication for a skin condition brought on by stress on the body and lack of sleep. I fear that might be only the beginning of my issues. You have to take care of yourself.

12. Realize that life is really going to suck at times.

Illness, divorce, financial trouble, family conflict, failure. Life can be one big, ugly mess. Of course you will survive these experiences, but the key is to put them into perspective as a necessary part of your growth. Each experience builds your character and prepares you for the next challenge. Or, as my pastor is fond of saying, “When life keeps putting you through the fire, eventually you’re going to come out fireproof!”

13. College is over. Now your education begins.

Never pass up a chance to learn something new. Don’t turn down an opportunity just because it’s not what you usually do. Don’t ignore someone just because you disagree with him or her. Every experience and every person presents an opportunity to learn. Grab it.